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life advice [Mar. 19th, 2006|04:34 pm]
Quarter-Life Crisis
Please read this and comment. I know this might be construed as off-topic, but please help me if you can. I need some life advice, rather desperately.

I moved about a year ago to be closer to my partner. Although I love him, my life is very difficult right now and I really need support. I'm broke, stuck in a crappy job, miss my friends, lack any support from my family, and although I have a lot of valuable experience and skills, am just not sure what to do with my life. I'm struggling with a lot of questions, both spiritual and practical.

So here are my questions. Please take the time to answer at least one of them if you can. It would be truly appreciated.

If you currently have a fulfilling job, what is it about your job that you enjoy? How did you find your job? What did you have to give up in order to find your calling? Have you found that the sacrifices you've made to be where you are were worth it?

If you currently work at a job that is not personally fulfilling, why do you do it (besides the obvious monetary reasons)?

If you're a creative person, how have you overcome your fears or writer's block and been able to express yourself?

On the whole, what do you think is the most important aspect of your life - your personal life or your professional life? Any tips for balancing the two?

Have you ever been in a serious, long distance relationship that worked out? If your relationship did not work out, do you regret it? What lessons have you learned from that experience?

Did you ever move to a new place where you were really isolated and didn't know anyone? How did you make the adjustment?

Have you had any really serious financial crises? What helped you to overcome them?

Did you go to college or graduate school? If you took any long periods of "time off" before either going to college or graduate school, how did you get back into it? Who did you ask for advice or recommendations when you went back?

Did you make a decision to either not go back to school or put your career on hold because of personal reasons? If so, why, and how did that work out for you? Do you regret your decision, or did you learn anything from it?

Do you struggle with your spiritual beliefs? What lessons have you learned from your struggles?

Thank you for reading this and offering me any life advice that you can. I truly appreciate it.

[User Picture]From: indigominor
2007-04-21 04:35 am (UTC)
About a year ago my boyfriend and I were looking for an apartment together because he got gotten a job in New York and I found a job in North Jersey (we're both from New Jersey). We found something in North Jersey..but what ended up happening was that his job didn't work out and neither did mine. I was unemployed and broke and he found something else in the meantime. We couldn't even make it on our own for a year...we left to go back to our family homes after 8 months.
While I was away...even though it was only an hour north, I felt isolated from my friends and everything I felt comfortable with. I despised living where I was, so when I moved back I felt like I was starting from the beginning again...which was nice. The move back hasn't really affected my relationship with my boyfriend either.
I did, however, learn a lot of lessons by moving away. I also learned that if I am going to make a decision that big that I should have my whole heart in it...which it wasn't when we decided to move.
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